Better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all.
I sometimes believe saints (the one above is by Saint Augustine) said such things only so that people who have lost in love find solace. It is almost defeatist, in a way.
What happens to the love that is lost? Is it lost forever, or does it come back to you so that you can spend it all over again on another?
4 comments:
have been following this blog for quite some time, and though i have felt like commenting many times, have restrained because of a specific reason.
the purpose of this blog and the views it espouses do not really gel with my concept of love and its purpose.(my opinion on love is a little weird and unconventional for people to understand and accept, but then it is also another way of looking at things).
coming to the exact reason of why i couldnt resist commenting on this post. well i believe that the term 'lost' as mentioned by Augustive had a connotation of losing in love, and not losing love itself as espoused later in the post. to further explain, i have only one statement. a question.
can love really be lost?(i mean like losing an object. for that matter, do objects really get lost "as in the disintegration of their constituent matter into nothingness" or are they not just immediately out of our view)
i dont believe the lost love can go anywhere simply because you cannot lose it in the first place(although you must by now have confirmed my lunacy, i still welcome any differences of opinion, as i always do, in the hope that it would drum some sense of an understanding of conventional love into me)
for starters: you are missing the point. this is a fun blog. don't take it too seriously. three different people write this blog (we of course welcome others). they are, as we call it, have "looked at love from all sides now." been there, done that, and come out better. :)
however, to answer your comment: what mr. augustine had in mind is open to interpretation, therefore closed to argument (opinions, you see). yes, there is that obvious connotation that it is about losing "in" love, as against "losing love". What do you really "lose in love"? Other than love? what remains the saint, as i understand it, talks of the joy of experience of being in love. nothing more. ensuring that one is "remains" love is the bastion of the insecure.
funny enough, "remains" has a sad connotation, don't you think? ;)
Can love be lost "like an object"? yes, look around you - look at the people sitting at home drowning themselves in mature ethyl alcohol or crying their tear glands out? what do you think they think? every tina, debbie and harriet thinks that love is over when he walks way. and vv.
we happily confirm your lunacy. like i said before you missed the (fun) point of it all. more so, you missed the point of the blog. "Recycle". It comes back - in a different shape and size. It is available again, often with more power and strength.
What, in God's sweet name is "conventional love?" (and therefore, unconventional love?)
lighten up ghost, take it in good "spirit" :)
Well said One Before Neo..."lighten up ghost, take it in good "spirit" :)he he he ...
>> Gupta Ghost - Well your qs, Can love be 'lost'? sounds fair to me. I wondered on the subject for years myself. However i have come to the conclusion that it's not love that really gets 'Lost' but it gets recycled :). On a serious note ...the object of affection changes with changing times and sometimes forced circumstances. Love is eternal and lives on. It’s exactly like what r friend (One Before Neo) stated... perhaps it comes back to be spent all over on another. Well that’s what I feel and understand ...
Cheers to recycling !
The Recyclist
whoa, after waiting for so many days, suddenly a deluge of responses. :)
makes me start wondering which of us was getting serious about a fun blog. :)
and about the lunacy part, well tanks for acknowledging it, but doesnt really matter, just helps to reconfirm some things sometimes, to pinch myself awake and ensure i haven't slept on the journey that my love is (psssst. just ignore all the above)
about the ehtyl alcohol, if u observe, did they lose love itself or their belief in what they assumed was love from all the gyaan that movies and stories dish out?
anyway keep rocking, like u said its a fun blog,and seriously dont know about you people, atleast i am having a lot of fun reading it(not joking)
continue cheering the asylum blokes like me up.
(whatever you do, kindly spare me the agony of going over what conventional, fact is there is no single definition of conventional, used that word as a broad generic term for what people generally define as love, so just give my rope some slackness :) )
heres to recycling or whatever that means :)
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